Javanese Philosopy

Nrimo ing pandum, is one of the Javanese philosophy that has very deep philosophy. Therefore, it would be unwise if this philosophy only means of three rows of the word, that person must accept all that is obtained, without opposition and without any effort to change.
Ing Nrimo pandum is in fact a personal internal management of Java, which are consciously see that: in this life is not always the fact that we have received, together with what we expect. There are always things that we dislike, we do not want, which later turned out to be a part of learning and debriefing about life.

The depth of this simple philosophy of Java, located on an awareness that "What there is, even the most contrary to the ideals that we want is part of the will of the Divine Life, God Almighty."
God willed the world as a meeting place for two things that we often maknai pleasant and unpleasant, like the afternoon - evening, the light-dark, sad-happy, etc..
Java philosophy is very aware that "Wong Urip Sakdremo nglampahi" (people living just underwent) with all the resources, effort and capital to live a very privileged, that is reasonable and heart.

With a sense, we are entitled and obliged to seek and to change all that by our reason is not fun, we did not expect to be the opposite. Although virtually all of it is the result of thinking of ourselves
Is not excessive, with such a limited sense, we must be able to face difficulties and problems. with a heart would not let go it will be tougher when facing all the difficulties?.
We realize the real Java philosophy that if there is a hardship, difficulty or problem successfully we've been through, is a part should we feel for the mature and enrich our mind, to produce a sincere gratitude.

Javanese Traditional Wedding

Java customary marriage or marriage symbolizes the meeting between a beautiful bride and handsome groom in a special atmosphere so that the groom and bride as king and queen of the day. Usually the wedding is held at the bride's parents' house and the parents of the bride who solemnize the marriage. Party groom usually only help make this the wedding ceremony can take place better.. The various events and ceremonies that must be done according to existing Java marriage is as follows.
Lamaran
If a couple of men and women already feel comfortable, then the groom's parents will send a delegation to the bride's parents can apply for their daughterIf the parents of the bride and groom have agreed to resume the marriage the female parent will start managing and preparing for the wedding. Those who choose the device or procedure and form of marriage, each of which has different procedures in terms of makeup and clothes, well for the groom or bride. Both the bride must follow all the wedding plans and the composition, such as Peningsetan, Siraman, Midodareni, Panggih.

Marriage Preparation
In marriage the most dominant Javanese wedding ceremony is set way of the shaman Pemaes bride who becomes the leader of the wedding, He take care of grooming and dress the groom and the bride a different shape for the wedding. Because the wedding ceremony is a great show, in addition to Pemaes who presided over the wedding, also formed a small committee composed of close friends, the family of the bride and groom.

Fitting decor
Usually the day before the wedding, the gate of her parents' house was decorated with Tarub (which uses various kinds of decorations tanaman), Consisting of banana trees, bananas, sugar cane, coconut and banyan leaves each having its own meaning, the point is that later The couple will live well and happy anywhere. The couple will love each other and will take care of their families. Another decoration is a flower Mayang prepared, namely a wreath consisting of a banana tree and coconut tree leaves.

"Siraman" or Splash of water
. The significance of the party are being washed to clean the body and soul. This water-pouring party usually held in the afternoon, the day before the wedding. Splash of water held in the bride's parents' house each. Spray is usually done in the bathroom or in the park. Usually people who do spray the parents and close family or an elder person.

"Midodareni " or Midodareni Ceremony
Usually the bride had to stay in the room from six o'clock until midnight and was accompanied by family or close relatives daughter. Usually they will advise and counsel. Family and close friends of the bride would come to visit, and all must be female.

Srah Srahan or Seserahan
Both families agreed to the marriage. They will be the besan. The family of the groom visit the bride's family, carrying a gift. On this occasion, the two families beramah hearted.

"Upacara Ijab Kabul "or Ijab Kabul ceremony

Javanese people usually speak of birth, marriage and death is the destiny of God. Answer to prayer ceremony is the most important terms in the ratified marriage. Execution of consent in accordance with the religion of the bride and groom. At the bride's parents consent to marry his son to the groom. And groom received the bride's illegitimate accompanied by delivery of a dowry for the bride. At the time this agreement will be witnessed by a prince or government officials who will record their marriages.

"Upacara panggih" or Panggih Ceremony
The meeting between a beautiful bride with the groom in front of handsome houses with ornamental plants in Tarub. Groom in between the family, arrived at the home of the bride's parents and stopped in front of the gate. The bride, in between the two elder women, walked out of the bridal chamber. Her parents and close family walked behind.

"Upacara balangan suruh" or Ceremony Balangan order
Meet the bride groom. They approached each other, about three meters away. They began to throw a bundle of betel leaves with lime in it together with white thread. They do it with passion and happiness, everyone is smiling happily. According to ancient belief, betel leaves have the power to reject the bad disorder. By throwing betel leaves to each other, it will try that they are really genuine people, not demons or other person who considers himself as a groom or a woman.
"Upacara wiji dadi" or Ceremony Wiji dadi
Pengantin laki-laki menginjak telur dengan kaki kanannya. The bridegroom stepped on an egg with his right foot. Wash the feet of the bride groom using water mixed with various flowers. That mean, that the groom is ready to become a father and husband who are responsible and the bride will serve the faithful husband.

"Tukar cincin" or Exchange ring
The exchange of wedding ring symbol of the sign of love.

"Upacara dahar kembul" or Ceremony dahar kembul
The couple eat together and fed each other. First, the bridegroom makes three small spots of rice with his right hand and give him to the bride. After the bride to eat it, he did the same for her husband. After they finished, they drink sweet tea. It describes the ceremony that the couple will use and enjoy a happy life with each other.

"Upacara sungkeman" or Sungkeman Ceremony
Bersujud to both the bride and groom's parents to ask blessings from their parents. First to the parents of the bride, then to the bridegroom's parents. During Sungkeman underway, Pemaes take keris from the groom. After Sungkeman, the groom wore back his kris.

"Pesta pernikahan" or Weddings
After the wedding ceremony is completed, then ended with a wedding. Receiving congratulations from the guests and invitations. Maybe this is part of the happiness to the two brides with the guests, family and invitees.